Monday, November 10, 2014

Who's Always Right in Your Marriage?

I recently read a great article called Who's Always Right in Your Marriage?
I know it feels good to be right and to have my husband think I'm right, but is that really what's most important? In fact, needing to be right all the time can harm a relationship. Do you agree?

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

What are you reading now?

Just wondering what you're reading these day. I'm reading a new book on Mentoring that is reinforcing what I've been seeing, while transforming my thinking in ways I didn't expect
Why am I reading it?

  • I saw a great interview with the authors. It's about 30 minutes long but you can download it and listen while you're walking, cooking, driving . . .
  • I've read another book by Sue Edwards, and it was excellent. She is a prof at Dallas Theological Seminary and is smart, warm and approachable.
  • I'm interested in mentoring and want to understand why it doesn't always work the way we want it to. I've seen too many women disappointed and even hurt by a mentoring experience. 
  • I'm sad to admit it, but I've been the one who disappointed someone I was mentoring years ago. And I think I might have disappointed someone else recently. But I know I've also helped others. Why do some mentoring relationships work out, but others flounder?
  • Our CBC Women's Support Team is reading and discussing this book during our monthly meetings. It's stimulating some great discussion. 
  • I don't have daughters, but I want to be involved in the lives of young women. How can I do that effectively?
  • I don't want to get stuck in my ways and lose touch with current culture.

That's what I'm reading and why. What about you?

Thursday, September 25, 2014


Do you ever have doubts? Of course you do. We doubt we can arrive on time. We doubt someone will notice our new haircut. We doubt our child will make their bed unasked. I'm not talking about ordinary doubts.

Do you ever doubt God? Do you ever doubt He exists or that your faith is genuine? Do you ever wonder if you're wrong about your core beliefs?

I read a great quote recently that set my mind at ease. See if you agree.

"Whether your faith is that there is a God or that there is not a God, if you don't have doubts, you are either kidding yourself or asleep. Doubts are the ants in the pants of faith. They keep it awake and moving." Fredrick Buechner, Wishful Thinking.  

Ants in the pants of faith  --  don't you just love it? Nobody likes ants in the pants; they're uncomfortable and annoying and painful. You just want them gone, so you look for the source -- where did they come from? Did you step in some giant ant bed without knowing it? Maybe you need to move to better footing.

Ants in the pants are like our doubts about God. Our doubts make us uncomfortable and annoyed and can cause us pain. We want them gone! But, just like ants in the pants, our doubts do keep us moving and alert and thinking and moving. They cause us to look for the source and see what caused us to doubt. 

What was it?
  • some kind of pain
  • an unmet expectation
  • an unanswered prayer
  • a tough intellectual questions
  • a slow fade from intimacy with God
What caused the doubt? Take a look. Examine the cause. Talk it through with someone wise. And look for firm footing.

God exists. He cares. We can't totally understand Him, but He totally understands us. And He's big enough to handle all our doubts -- our ants in the pants of faith. On the other side of the doubts we can find a firm place to stand.

Thursday, September 4, 2014


"Think of me as a fellow patient in the same hospital, who having been admitted a little earlier, could give some advice." CSLewis 

I read this quote in Organic Mentoring, a book by Sue Edwards and Barbara Neumann. You might want to pick up a copy for yourself. They have great insight into young women and what they desire in a mentoring relationship. Our Women's Ministry team is reading it together.

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Parenting -- Beyond Sunday Morning

I recently had the opportunity to speak with Lane Sebring our Next Generations Pastor about parenting. We had such a fun time discussing spiritual leadership and more. Take a look at Beyond Sunday Morning and let me know what you think.........

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

2 Hot Topics in Marriage

I wanted to share some links on 2 Hot Topics in Marriage: Sex and Conflict. There doesn't have to be conflict in the area of sex. Here are 2 resources that might help your relationship. Let me know what you think....

  • One of our pastors at Centreville Baptist Church, Lane Sebring, shares on the topic of Sex.

Thursday, April 10, 2014

Praise Him with a MEGAPHONE

I haven't blogged in awhile, but I want to share a new discovery concerning Praise and Thanks. I'm taking a class on the Psalms and learning so much. Here's what I've found so transforming.

  • Praise is "a public and vocal act of genuine delight in the person and actions of God."* Praise in the Hebrew Bible (Old Testament) is always spoken and meant to be public. There is no silent praise to God.
  • Thanks is a New Testament word. It can be done aloud or privately in one's heart. 

This perspective is a new one for me. It's changing the way I think about my own prayer life. Based on these new-to-me definitions I too often stop at thanks, and fail to actually PRAISE! I desire to be more vocal and public about how I feel about our magnificent God. I want to use a LOUD VOICE (that's "MEGAS PHONE" in the Greek!) What about YOU?

*from And I Will Praise Him, by Ronald B. Allen

Sunday, February 16, 2014

Prodigal Children

Do you have a prodigal child or know someone who does? I found this article written by a prodigal child himself, who just happens to be John Piper's son. It offers great insight that might help a struggling parent out there.

Let Them Come Home (John and Abraham Piper)

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Choosing Gratitude

I'm leading a Bible study based on a book by Nancy Leigh DeMoss called Choosing Gratitude. After attending a women's retreat this fall, I've been challenged to explore the topic of gratitude. However, I don't just want to learn about gratitude, I want to become a more grateful person. I don't want to stay the same. I want my life to look different after I complete this study.

I'm already grateful to have other women join me -- even though I don't know who they are yet. But tonight and next Tuesday, I'll begin to meet them. I hope they are as anxious as I am to begin this journey of gratitude.