Monday, November 10, 2014

Who's Always Right in Your Marriage?

I recently read a great article called Who's Always Right in Your Marriage?
I know it feels good to be right and to have my husband think I'm right, but is that really what's most important? In fact, needing to be right all the time can harm a relationship. Do you agree?

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

What are you reading now?

Just wondering what you're reading these day. I'm reading a new book on Mentoring that is reinforcing what I've been seeing, while transforming my thinking in ways I didn't expect
Why am I reading it?

  • I saw a great interview with the authors. It's about 30 minutes long but you can download it and listen while you're walking, cooking, driving . . .
  • I've read another book by Sue Edwards, and it was excellent. She is a prof at Dallas Theological Seminary and is smart, warm and approachable.
  • I'm interested in mentoring and want to understand why it doesn't always work the way we want it to. I've seen too many women disappointed and even hurt by a mentoring experience. 
  • I'm sad to admit it, but I've been the one who disappointed someone I was mentoring years ago. And I think I might have disappointed someone else recently. But I know I've also helped others. Why do some mentoring relationships work out, but others flounder?
  • Our CBC Women's Support Team is reading and discussing this book during our monthly meetings. It's stimulating some great discussion. 
  • I don't have daughters, but I want to be involved in the lives of young women. How can I do that effectively?
  • I don't want to get stuck in my ways and lose touch with current culture.

That's what I'm reading and why. What about you?

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Doubts

Do you ever have doubts? Of course you do. We doubt we can arrive on time. We doubt someone will notice our new haircut. We doubt our child will make their bed unasked. I'm not talking about ordinary doubts.

Do you ever doubt God? Do you ever doubt He exists or that your faith is genuine? Do you ever wonder if you're wrong about your core beliefs?

I read a great quote recently that set my mind at ease. See if you agree.

"Whether your faith is that there is a God or that there is not a God, if you don't have doubts, you are either kidding yourself or asleep. Doubts are the ants in the pants of faith. They keep it awake and moving." Fredrick Buechner, Wishful Thinking.  

Ants in the pants of faith  --  don't you just love it? Nobody likes ants in the pants; they're uncomfortable and annoying and painful. You just want them gone, so you look for the source -- where did they come from? Did you step in some giant ant bed without knowing it? Maybe you need to move to better footing.


Ants in the pants are like our doubts about God. Our doubts make us uncomfortable and annoyed and can cause us pain. We want them gone! But, just like ants in the pants, our doubts do keep us moving and alert and thinking and moving. They cause us to look for the source and see what caused us to doubt. 



What was it?
  • some kind of pain
  • an unmet expectation
  • an unanswered prayer
  • a tough intellectual questions
  • a slow fade from intimacy with God
What caused the doubt? Take a look. Examine the cause. Talk it through with someone wise. And look for firm footing.

God exists. He cares. We can't totally understand Him, but He totally understands us. And He's big enough to handle all our doubts -- our ants in the pants of faith. On the other side of the doubts we can find a firm place to stand.






Thursday, September 4, 2014

Mentoring

"Think of me as a fellow patient in the same hospital, who having been admitted a little earlier, could give some advice." CSLewis 

I read this quote in Organic Mentoring, a book by Sue Edwards and Barbara Neumann. You might want to pick up a copy for yourself. They have great insight into young women and what they desire in a mentoring relationship. Our Women's Ministry team is reading it together.